Last night was one of those nights when my pregnancy
hormones took over, where suddenly I was overwhelmed by tears and emotions. Hubby and I were eating a Sunday night dinner—parmesan
chicken, broccoli, sweet potatoes and a baguette—as I gradually became very
quiet. One reason was because I was
feeling very sick, even well into my second trimester, holding my hand up
to my mouth every few minutes in an attempt to keep down my nutritious meal. As we finished, I was staring at some family
pictures on one of our end tables in the next room. Gabriel asked me what was wrong and I
responded, “just thinking.” He then
cleared his place at the table and kissed my head, retreating upstairs for his
shower and shave.
I stayed at the table asI sometimes like to do. Thinking.
As soon as I heard the bathroom door close upstairs, tears
flooded my eyes. All I could think about
was the past week of spring break, the four-day surprise visit from my parents,
and how much I missed them already. The
emotions were also encompassed by the anxieties and concerns of my pregnancy
and the inevitable changes my body will continue to undergo.
I just. Couldn’t. Stop. Crying.
That’s when my phone began buzzing.
I picked it up to find that I had exactly 15
messages from my friend, Katie, and my sister, Amy. We often send group texts to each other
throughout the week. This time was a
lighthearted comment Katie made about a post she had seen on her Facebook Newsfeed
that read, “Pick up the closest book to you and turn to page 206… The first
sentence explains your love life.”
Miss Katie happened to be reading a book when she saw that
post and decided to take part in the amusing trial. Her next message to us was a picture of a
blank page in her book with the caption that said, “I turned to page 206 and
this is what I got! A blank page. Basically
my love life is nothing!”
Generally, Katie is not one to let silly things like this
get her down, so I knew that her comment was encompassed mostly by lighthearted
sarcasm. But, through my tears, that’s
when I immediately responded to her with a positive spin.
“Your page is blank because it symbolizes the
possibilities. It’s blank because right
now you’re not looking for love. It’s
blank because your love life is waiting to be written. A whole world of color awaits to splash your
own page of love.”
“#Perspective”
“Omg that’s it,” Katie replied. “I’m typing this out and hanging it on my
fridge.”
I felt a sense of satisfaction for being to help my friend see
things from a positive perspective, especially when it’s usually the other way
around. Immediately I stopped and
pondered why this perspective thing has been so hard for me lately. As an instructor of interpersonal
communication, I teach about the value of perceptions and positive perspectives
all the time, and how subjective perceptions can majorly influence individual,
and relational, satisfaction.
So, if this is the stuff I teach every day, if this is what
I pray for every day, then why am I seemingly struggling so much through this
pregnancy? Why am I so concerned with the inevitable changes my body will
endure… the sickness I undergo several times each week? Why can’t I practice
what I preach??
The simplest answer I could come up with is the age old
saying that it’s easier said than done.
I had previously written my pregnancy announcement blog
titled “Expecting Babies and Trusting in God's Plan” which discussed the lessons I’m
learning about clinging to the Lord and trusting in His plan rather than trying
to control everything. But, as many of us know, a one-time reflection is not
enough. We need those gentle
reminders.
While I realize that many of my emotions are warranted—such
as brutally missing home and feeling scared and uneasy—I also regrettably
realize that an equal half of them are more negative than positive. Though it’s quite difficult to find the
silver lining in the days where I feel anything but beautiful with my changing
body and the numerous times when I’m puking my insides out, I must remember to
practice what I preach. To focus on
what’s good.
And, there’s so much that is GOOD. I have the most humble, handsome,
sweet-as-pie husband in the world. He
even started building the baby crib this weekend that he let me help him
with—drilling the screws in and all! I have a wonderful family who loves me,
albeit the physical distance between us.
I have a good job, good friends, a roof over my head and money to buy
healthy food. And most importantly, we
have God on our side. This isn’t just
our baby. He/she is God’s baby.
And though I know a blog post now and again isn’t a simple
fix for my fluctuating emotions—though I know I will definitely continue to
struggle mentally through this pregnancy—I must remember that looking through
the lens of my blessed life is a perspective worth holding on to. Especially a life that’s now been blessed
with the little miracle growing inside of me.
That is a life that’s good.
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